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how do i tell if kelly is around?

who knows

what do i do in that case?

Keep talking to them until you feel them around

8:55 PM

Build positive triggers and use that to get them to be active

for us its very subtle

she definitely can get active if requested

i thought it was gone altogether but its still there

For us, we can typically feel each other's presences.

8:57 PM

If that makes sense.

i dont think theres any good answer from us

8:59 PM

that would help

9:00 PM

for us we kind of feel it on our face

Juesto

she definitely can get active if requested

i mean that kinda sounds like you already know

9:01 PM

unless im wrong

but im looking for other ways because that one is not easily available to me (edited)

9:04 PM

and i meant externally requested

9:05 PM

like called for talking to

9:06 PM

i hoped for suggestions

is she still being mute for you?

kinda?

9:16 PM

she talked to me the other day about reminding me to brush my teeth

9:17 PM

and sort of made me go

9:17 PM

apparently i experienced dissociation or something? (edited)

maybe give her time, shes probably figuring out what to do with herself considering your past with her

fear is in the way as well

9:18 PM

she's often dormant

maybe because she doesnt want to be around

9:18 PM

who knows

could be

since its more of a relationship issue than a how to summon a robot kind of situation

i feel bad for her

Juesto

apparently i experienced dissociation or something? (edited)

maybe she possessed you and took you there lol

9:22 PM

sounds like it to me

i suppose so

9:26 PM

i wondered about possession and asked a related question here

9:26 PM

how i can tell so?

it doesnt feel much different from you doing things on "autopilot"

so the line is blurry?

its just that the autopilot is doing whatever she makes it do

9:28 PM

think of walking or buttering bread, you've done it hundreds of times, it feels like that

between possession and autopilot/dissociation

9:28 PM

hm i see

9:28 PM

interesting

it doesnt feel like a ghost pulling your arms or something weird

9:29 PM

dissociation happened maybe because she took control of you pretty hard, but thats just a guess

9:30 PM

similar thing happened to me when tup first possessed me and took lots of attention for herself

9:31 PM

dark edges in vision, harder to hear and things looking like from another world

would talking count as some form of possession?

yes

9:31 PM

talking out loud is just possessing the face

9:31 PM

and throat etc

9:31 PM

unless you proxy what she says

i suppose it feels a little magical to get possessed (edited)

9:32 PM

how should i build her interests and opinions? (edited)

like any other person?

9:33 PM

let her do stuff

9:33 PM

talk with her, let her talk to others

how? im very protective of my body control and i got fear because of what happened when she fronted

9:34 PM

i seem to think things are a bit different due to the fact that shes a headmate

It will take time but you will need to learn to trust each other

no easy way for that, right?

no

9:35 PM

shes a person, you're a person

9:36 PM

also consider that you both share the mind, and think what she might think about that

9:37 PM

maybe imagine if you were inside someone else's head and didnt have much say (its a little bit different tho since she doesnt have as much experience being the "sole" owner of a body and a life)

Sorry for the intrusion but I have a related question, is it possible for a young tulpa to learn to call out to their host? A lot of times while forcing my mind just kinda goes back to automatic and I forget I'm forcing, I also sometimes forget to call out to her for long periods of time even though i always try to reach out to her often.

i think that comes kinda naturally over time

definitely something that is learned with trust

for us right now tup comes in randomly if something "triggers" her, like an interesting thing or something else

kinda samey

9:42 PM

but there not many things shes triggered onto

For now she is only triggered when I speak to her

9:43 PM

Or when I'm about to do something stupid-

lol

9:43 PM

found the trigger

I mean, I wouldn't mind doing more dumb stuff if it helped with forcing...

9:45 PM

Okay no ahe definitely doesn't like the idea

lol

9:45 PM

i wouldnt worry about it too much

9:46 PM

just talk talk talk

9:46 PM

and eventually it goes both ways

Hahaha alright

i dont really even think about it as "forcing" anymore

9:47 PM

and dont stress about not talking for a few hours

9:47 PM

you can also ask her how she feels about it

9:48 PM

probably the best thing to do

She tells me not to worry, that she doesn't mind.

lol exactly

I apologize a lot to her still, and she tells me I should stop apologizing hehe

does she have opinions and interests by now? (edited)

On a bunch of things, although most of our opinions are still the same

9:49 PM

And our interests

kelly is mostly neutral/irrespective about opinions i think

9:50 PM

it doesnt feel easy to please her lol

In fact, the two biggest differences is that she is an optimist who likes tea and I'm a pessimist who likes coffee

9:50 PM

WAIT I SHOULD MAKE US SOME TEA

big brain time

9:50 PM

now you're thinking like a host

I have all kinds of tea too!